Two years after her ADHD diagnosis, Tarryn Stokes won The Voice Australia, embracing her neurodiversity as a superpower in her musical journey. Read on for Tarryn’s inspiring story below.
It’s funny how a diagnosis can change everything. Who would have thought that just two years after being diagnosed with ADHD combined type (hyperactive and inattentive), I would not only compete in a television singing contest but also win The Voice Australia?
I certainly didn’t see that coming.
It all started after a conversation with my best friend, who mentioned that she thought she might have ADHD. As she explained what ADHD looked like in her life, I felt like a light bulb went off—maybe this was the answer to what had been wrong with me.
I say it that way because I felt something was off, but now I truly embrace ADHD as my superpower and have shifted my perspective to see it more positively.
Let me tell you, though, it has been quite a journey!
I think back to my final year of high school, staying up all night to finish my VCE music history assignment. It was a subject that held no dopamine for me, and I put it off until the night before, sacrificing sleep to get it done on time.
I also recall my risk-taking behaviour as a teenager, which was accompanied by shame rather than understanding. The messy rooms, unpaid bills, and high-achieving tendencies that affected my health—there was a long list of challenges.
It wasn’t until I had two babies and felt overwhelmed by the endless house tasks that it all became too much. Speaking with a psychologist, I tried to explain that I just couldn’t organise myself. She recommended making lists, but that only made me feel like giving up—the lists never worked!
Then, when my friend told me about ADHD, I decided to seek a diagnosis from a psychiatrist and eventually found a great psychologist who has been amazing.
Learning about myself has healed so much of the shame I had carried over the years. My brain works differently, but I have many strengths.
When I experience a surge of hyperfocus and dopamine, I can accomplish tasks incredibly fast. I can sing endlessly without getting bored and can pick out harmonies in any song.
I have a deep sense of empathy and compassion for others, and now, finally, for myself as well.
When I notice myself getting stuck—feeling extra tired from social interactions, experiencing brain fog, being messy, or forgetful – I first practice self-compassion and understanding, then work through the problem.
Being able to laugh off my ADHD moments has been incredibly healing. ADHD perfectionism paralysis used to hold me back, but being able to show up on The Voice Australia just as I am, flaws and all, and letting go of control made the process enjoyable.
I hope that by being open about my ADHD, I can encourage others to embrace who they are and follow their dreams.
